Ask Laura: What do I do when my teen has strict technology limits, but his best friend doesn't?
In this monthly series, social media expert and Durham mom Laura Tierney, founder of The Social Institute, answers your questions about social media and kids.
Posted — UpdatedThis one is tricky — you don’t want to keep your son from spending time with his best friend, but you don’t feel comfortable knowing they are online and playing video games for (potentially) hours at a time with very little supervision. You’re going to have to have two conversations: One with the other parents and one with your son.
Reassure them that when their child is at your house, you'll be expecting him to follow certain standards you have in place. (See the list below for ideas.) Likewise, you’d like for your child to follow their standards when he’s at their house.
Say something like, "I'd feel a lot better if I was familiar with what you enforce at your house because our kids love hanging out.” If they they don’t have standards or tech limits in place, consider taking them through this list of questions:
- What devices can kids use at their house?
- Is it a parent's device or one owned by the child?
- Are there parental controls set on the devices?
- Are the kids talking to friends or strangers when they're gaming?
- How much screen time is allowed (and are breaks enforced)?
- What if they come across inappropriate content? What's the guideline?
- What if they are bullied?
It’s not easy, but it might be easier knowing you have just three things to cover:
- Assure your son that whatever he’s feeling, it does not make him a bad person. It’s natural to be interested in sexual behavior (depending on your child’s age).
- Pornographic images do not portray real people having real sex in real relationships.
- He can ask you about anything his sees, not just the inappropriate stuff.
When your child goes over a friend’s house with zero tech limits, it’s best to keep the lines of conversation open. Talk regularly about technology and discuss standards with both your child and his friend’s parents.
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